There’s a fight happening in the U.S. that’s inspiring furor, fear, and division. Actually, there are several fights, all coinciding with one another, and all amounting to the same question that needs to be answered: Which reality do Americans wish to create and live in? Fear…or Love? At the Heart of the Debate Over Abortion […]
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I spend a lot of time talking about ego (what you might call your “personality,” what others have called your “shadow self”, or “judge”). But it occurred to me I’ve never really taken the time to break down what the ego is, how it functions, and why it’s imperative we understand our egos if we
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I’ve stopped taking my anti-depressants. It’s not a decision I make lightly. I tried to do so once before, and the results then were not pretty. Then, I wasn’t in a place where I knew how to handle my sudden mood swings, or breathe through my terror or rage. I couldn’t stop terror-filled or
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Have you ever been smack-dab in the midst of reaction or heightened emotion – anger, jealousy, confusion, etc. – and said to yourself, “Whooaaaa. What the hell is happening here?” Well, that’s your Ego at work, and your Authentic Self trying to interrupt it. Usually, it’s only after an egoic episode that we’re able to
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Rifling through some old photographs from early in my first marriage, when my daughter was brand new and the world of parenting still a mysterious thing, I came across a picture of the three of us. There we were: Myself, my ex-husband, and our big-eyed, chubby-cheeked little girl, each of us suspended in time in
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I now weigh almost as much as I did at my heaviest in high school. This isn’t earth-shattering or new for most of us women: Our weight fluctuates throughout our lives and tends to get a little higher toward our “middle-aged” years. Or so I’ve been told. I never really believed it about myself, though,
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I’m going to challenge this pervading societal belief that “self-care” must involve capitalism and the beauty industry. Don’t get me wrong: I love me some spa time. And when spring rolls around, I fall prey to buying all the pretty florals that I rarely actually wear but make me feel happy just looking at them
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I’ve spent a goodly portion of my life living in fear. Mostly fear of failing, which kept me from ever really going for anything big. But also, fear of the Other. The Other isn’t some mythical, mystical beast that preys on young children in dark, creepy forests. No, the Other is whoever singularly or collectively
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Let’s get one thing clear: Just because I consider myself a spiritual being doesn’t mean I can’t also be fiercely political. After all, what’re politics? They’re negotiations of who gets to have, keep, and use power in society. As a human being currently walking about on planet earth, living with the consequences of how those
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One of the big themes in my recent book is that of Love vs Fear. I contend these are the only two energy states we can choose to operate from at any given time. Love gives birth to experiences such as freedom, growth, and joy. Fear promulgates feelings of anger, self-righteousness, jealousy, and a whole
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