When we’re scared, we project. Projection is one of our most reliable weapons of (egoic) self-defense. It’s like a bomb: we hurl it far away from us, hoping it will detonate and wound those we perceive are harming us. But those most acutely wounded by projection are, inevitably, ourselves. Because when we project onto others […]
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“Positive vibes only!” This exhortation has always irritated me. After all, I can’t live only in positivity; I feel ALL the feels – and I wouldn’t change that for the world. Read on to discover why feeling our “negative” emotions is one of the most loving things we can do for ourselves. Feel All Your
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Soften. Allow. Let go. From almost every spiritual circle across the globe, we’re told that to attain peace and equanimity, these are the things we must do. But why are they so important? What magic elixir do these directives hold? And how do we incorporate them into our daily lives? First Step: Notice What’s Rigid
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We hear about forgiveness all the time. It’s important to forgive. Forgive and forget. But what does it mean to truly forgive? It means something much more than just an idea or concept that lives in the mind. True forgiveness shifts us radically on a cellular level. It means we can recall a person or
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I was 16 years old the first time I chose to have an abortion. Yes, I said “the first time.” Meaning, there were other times. But I’m only going to tell you about the first. To be clear, you’re not owed any of my stories. But this one, I choose to tell. Why? Because as
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What if every single moment of your life has been absolute, holy perfection? Meaning, no mistakes have ever occurred. Meaning, every single person you’ve met, engaged with, loved, loathed, and left were perfectly orchestrated to fall into your life at just the right moment. Now, what if each and every one of those moments was
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Have you noticed how society loves to divide us into groups and then pit us against one another? Democrat or Republican, logical or spiritual, white or POC, queer or “straight.” This is the purview of the ego: For, or against. This creates a false binary, a sense that we can only be either this or that.
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What if all of life’s journey is about relentlessly pursuing unadulterated joy? And what if we allowed this principle to guide every single decision we make? Looking Back to Propel Ourselves Forward A few weeks ago, I wrote about re-discovering my inner child, tapping into her innocence and curiosity, and ruminating on how I could
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She’s rent in blood, this land of ours Her birth a splitting As we each arrive to touch bare skin to soil The salt of our blood and the salt of our tears kissing the hollows of her open spaces. We’re rent in blood, these souls of ours Our lives a spinning As God welcomes
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When was the last time you ran, jumped, climbed, swung, or coasted with the wild abandon of an inner child? Yeah, it’s been too long for me, too. Why am I asking this question? Because that kiddo, who might feel totally foreign to you right now, is still in you. You are her (or him,
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