Soften. Allow. Let go. From almost every spiritual circle across the globe, we’re told that to attain peace and equanimity, these are the things we must do. But why are they so important? What magic elixir do these directives hold? And how do we incorporate them into our daily lives? First Step: Notice What’s Rigid […]
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We hear about forgiveness all the time. It’s important to forgive. Forgive and forget. But what does it mean to truly forgive? It means something much more than just an idea or concept that lives in the mind. True forgiveness shifts us radically on a cellular level. It means we can recall a person or
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What if every single moment of your life has been absolute, holy perfection? Meaning, no mistakes have ever occurred. Meaning, every single person you’ve met, engaged with, loved, loathed, and left were perfectly orchestrated to fall into your life at just the right moment. Now, what if each and every one of those moments was
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Have you noticed how society loves to divide us into groups and then pit us against one another? Democrat or Republican, logical or spiritual, white or POC, queer or “straight.” This is the purview of the ego: For, or against. This creates a false binary, a sense that we can only be either this or that.
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What if all of life’s journey is about relentlessly pursuing unadulterated joy? And what if we allowed this principle to guide every single decision we make? Looking Back to Propel Ourselves Forward A few weeks ago, I wrote about re-discovering my inner child, tapping into her innocence and curiosity, and ruminating on how I could
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When was the last time you ran, jumped, climbed, swung, or coasted with the wild abandon of an inner child? Yeah, it’s been too long for me, too. Why am I asking this question? Because that kiddo, who might feel totally foreign to you right now, is still in you. You are her (or him,
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I spend a lot of time talking about ego (what you might call your “personality,” what others have called your “shadow self”, or “judge”). But it occurred to me I’ve never really taken the time to break down what the ego is, how it functions, and why it’s imperative we understand our egos if we
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Have you ever been smack-dab in the midst of reaction or heightened emotion – anger, jealousy, confusion, etc. – and said to yourself, “Whooaaaa. What the hell is happening here?” Well, that’s your Ego at work, and your Authentic Self trying to interrupt it. Usually, it’s only after an egoic episode that we’re able to
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Rifling through some old photographs from early in my first marriage, when my daughter was brand new and the world of parenting still a mysterious thing, I came across a picture of the three of us. There we were: Myself, my ex-husband, and our big-eyed, chubby-cheeked little girl, each of us suspended in time in
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Let’s get one thing clear: Just because I consider myself a spiritual being doesn’t mean I can’t also be fiercely political. After all, what’re politics? They’re negotiations of who gets to have, keep, and use power in society. As a human being currently walking about on planet earth, living with the consequences of how those
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